hello-i-am-not-a-pumpkin:
AND IT’S NOT THAT I’M TRYING TO DEFINE YOU FOR YOU, BUT IT’S NOT THAT HARD TO UNDERSTAND THAT BI MEANS TWO SORT OF LIKE DI MEANS TWO AND PAN MEANS ALL SORT OF LIKE OMNI MEANS ALL
THEY ARE PREFIXES THAT REFER TO A SPECIFIC NUMBER THAT IS HOW THE WORDS BISEXUAL AND PANSEXUAL WERE DERIVED
SO NO YOU CAN’T BE BISEXUAL AND PANSEXUAL
THAT IS NOT HOW NUMBERS WORK
With the greatest respect and not in anyway meaning to disregard any self-identification that anyone wishes to adopt but you should know there is an actual formal definition of bisexual. So that from now on could we please ask you to always use this as the starting point of any discussion of bisexuality/bisexual community.
When people say bisexual = only male/female it’s a bit like defining native american’s “redskins”. While the person speaking most likely meant no harm it’s silly, problematic as well as hurtful & disrespectful to all the bisexual people who in some ways define themselves as gender variant/gender non-conforming. It also (again probably by accident) erases the one third or more of trans* & genderqueer activist who founded and sustain the bisexual movement. So from now on Instead please use these instead:
First here is a “cute” twitter-ish version:
Bisexuals = people who ♥ People of Same Gender as themselves + ♥ People of Different Genders/Gender Presentations from themselves
Second, here is the longer more formal definition of bisexual:
Bisexuals are people with the inborn capacity to form enduring physical, romantic, (some include spiritual) and/or emotional attractions to:
(1) those of the same gender as themselves
(2) those of different genders/gender presentations from themselves
There may be an individual attraction for one gender or gender presentation which can also be fluid and changeable over time.
Bisexuality is not synonymous with being polyamorous, (some include “or promiscuous”). Individual bisexual people may be celibate, asexual, monogamous or non-monogamous just as individual straight, lesbian or gay people can be.
No matter what the gender/gender presentation of the person they are partnered with, bisexual people remain bisexual. They do not suddenly switch orientation as if by magic when they enter into a relationship.
And just (re)posted, here is the
Actual Etymology of the word Bisexual
(german, borrowed from botany in the 1800’s).