Fight The CisTem
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I got a new sticker!
Cute! Cute! Cute!
(Source: asherieds)
For the record: It’s an issue of MARRIAGE EQUALITY not “Gay Marriage”.
Many of the people who marry their same gender partners are BISEXUAL!
Edit: Just to add to the list there are also Trans*, Pansexual, Genderfluid, Genderqueer, and many more people who have a stake in marriage equality. And just as a friendly reminder marriage is not the end of this fight.
Umm … always remembering of course that quite a lot of Bisexual People are also Trans*, Genderfluid, Genderqueer or otherwise Gender Non-conforming. While absolutely sure that was just written in an attempt to be super-inclusive it can sometimes be read as accidentally “othering” all non-Cis and/or non Heteronormative/Homonormative bisexual people.
We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves, or worse yet, not considered at all. We are frustrated by the imposed isolation and invisibility that comes from being told or expected to choose either a homosexual or heterosexual identity.
Monosexuality is a heterosexist dictate used to oppress homosexuals and to negate the validity of bisexuality.
Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have “two” sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone’s sexuality, including your own.
We are angered by those who refuse to accept our existence; our issues; our contributions; our alliances; our voice. It is time for the bisexual voice to be heard.
If you use the phrase “opposite sex/gender”…
Types of cis bigots I am quite tired of (a bit of a rant, this)
[warning for cissexism]
The Fundiegelical: “You may think you’re ‘happy’ by wearing the clothing of the opposite sex, but you’re living in sin and you’re going straight to hell! Jesus loves you.”
The “Enlightened” Liberal: “But gender doesn’t even matter, because deep down, we’re all the same. So why is it such a big deal what I call you?”
The TERF: “By embracing a gender role opposite your assigned sex, you are reifying gender/privilege and thus making it that much harder for us to smash gender. I know that sounds contradictory but, if you’d been a feminist for as long as I have, you’d understand.”
The Proto-TERF: “Of course I don’t have anything against trans people, but abortion/sex work/breast cancer/ovarian cancer/whatever is and has always been a women’s issue! Why do you want to take it away from women?”
The Ungendering Fetishist: “Hey, I don’t have anything against sh*m*les! I think you’re hot! I watch sh*m*le porn all the time.”
The Clueless Oppression-Olympian: “Transness is just a white/abled/Western issue, so why should I care about it?”
The Incrementalist: “Look, people just aren’t ready to accept trans folks yet. So instead of arguing about what pronouns to use for you, we should focus on something we can actually accomplish, like [insert other tenuously-related SJ cause here].”
The Genital-Focused: “I totally respect and support trans people, but I would never date one. Because ewww.”
The Broad-Stroke Painter: “I once met a trans person who was selfish/mean/creepy/bad in general, so you’re all like that and I won’t respect any of you.”
The Inveterate Essentialist: “But… you can’t be a woman, because you have a PENIS! And chromosomes! And… a PENIS!”
The What-About-Teh-Cis Whiner: “I know my refusal to call you ‘she’ hurts you, but you have to understand that your demand to call you ‘she’ hurts me, too. What about my feelings?”
The Pig-Headed “Skeptic”: “Do you have actual evidence that you’re really a woman? No, of course you don’t, because it’s impossible by definition. No, shut up; I’m right and you’re wrong, PERIOD.”
The “Free Speech” Whiner: “Don’t you think that, in the spirit of free and open discussion, you should listen to my side of things instead of just dismissing it out of hand as ‘bigotry’?”
The Devil’s Advocate: “I’m not saying prejudice is right, but, to be fair, it is a little weird for someone to present as a woman and yet have a penis.”
The Self-Proclaimed “Ally”: “How dare you say I’ve been cissexist? Don’t you know how very supportive I’ve been of you and your causes? Why aren’t you grateful?”
The “Edgy” Comedian: “Look, it was a joke. I’m sorry you’re too unsophisticated to understand why it’s funny; I guess I’m just too edgy for you. Maybe one day, when you grow up a little, you’ll stop trying to censor humor.”
(Hint to cis people: don’t do any of these things.)
(on tumblr atleast.)
Most butthurt thing I’ve ever made.
You. Are. AWESOME. That is all.
Pro tip: If you are teaching LGBT Studies, you should probably not use the phrase “gay marriage” to refer to all marriages between people of the same legal gender designation.
Many gay marriages for me would look like hetero marriages to the law. WE TRANS PEOPLE ARE SO CONFUSING AND MYSTERIOUS~! ESPECIALLY THE NONBINARY AND DEMIBINARY ONES!
Also, erasing non-monosexual people is great. :| {/sarcasm}
But really, the B and the T in the course title should NOT be silent.
But I can’t say I wasn’t expecting this. :|
LOL! too right!
Binary and Biphobia
More arguments on the “bisexuality as a term reinforces a gender binary” conversation.
Gathering my thoughts, will post something soon-ish on the subject.
Really it is not all that big a deal. Shouldn’t we all be concentrating on more serious issues than fighting to the death over what word to use?
Also with greatest respect but BISEXUALS define what bisexuality is. No one else. If you are not bisexual and want to provide someone with a definition of bisexuality, please link to something like this from a bisexual advocacy organization rather than attempting to make up your own. You may get something wrong, and it’s also kind of busted to try and define any group you aren’t a part of anyway.
Bisexuality = attraction to (1) people who are the same as you + (2) people who are different from you.Here is how to tell if you are bisexual. Think about all the people you have had a genuine attraction to over your lifetime. If they are of more than one gender/gender expression then Congratulations! You too are bisexual.
