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In the Workplace - Myth 2: Biphobia is a heterosexual problem

Busting myths around bisexuals in the workplace: From the pitfalls of coming out to prejudice and professional isolation, bisexuals explain the challenges they face at work —

Myth 2: Biphobia is a heterosexual problem — It’s not just Emma’s heterosexual colleagues who have raised an eyebrow about her sexuality. Bringing her opposite-sex partner to office LGBT events was frowned upon and she sometimes felt more acceptance with gay-friendly heterosexual colleagues.

One way in which companies are trying to reach out to their LGBT employees is through their diversity networks. But previous Stonewall research found that bisexual men and women often feel excluded from these groups.

Milena Popova is trying to change all that in her company, Proctor and Gamble. Despite the consumer goods company being named one of Stonewall’s top 100 gay-friendly employers this year, Popova claims bisexuality is still new territory and their LGBT network only began focusing on it in the past year. She says historically the company has had a one-size-fits-all approach to LGBT employees, attracting mostly gay men to its network Gable, which Milena leads for the UK and western Europe.

Milena says one of the basics that is very easy for employers to get wrong is to only talk about lesbian and gay employees. “I have been to industry events and LGBT conferences where people persistently talk about lesbian and gay, but never mention bisexuals,” Milena says. “So we’re making a concerted effort to make sure we’re not doing that, that we are specifically calling out bisexual and transgender and are supportive of the full spectrum of LGBT employees.”

Gay advice columnist Dan Savage to write on Bisexuality. Disaster or Blessing?

[USA]: Well know gay agony auntie and perennial foe of bisexuals Dan Savage tweeted about a new book he’s writing saying: “Working on chapter about bisexuality for new book. Honestly can’t tell if it’s going to make everything all better or get my gay ass killed.”

So what do you think? Good idea? Chance for reconciliation? Will he, as one responder requested, “stop playing the Bisexual Community 4 cheap laughs”?

If you’re on twitter perhaps you might stop by and give him so good (respectful) suggestion to get some dialogue going and some realistic info for bisexual people into print. Perhaps point him to some good stuff you or other actual real-live bisexual people have written?

(Source: facebook.com)

bipaganman:

wordstomeawhisper:

blaidddrewg:

CAN YOU ALL STOP FUCKING TELLING ME WHAT MY FUCKING ORIENTATION MEANS

BI MEANS TWO

THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT IT REFERS TO GENDERS

STOP FUCKING SPREADING THIS BULLSHIT JESUS FUCKING CHRIST

reblogging for commentary,

But I might as well ask again, Can a pansexual define their orientation without referencing bisexuality?

Well known biphobic mess. Allegedly (though since I do not personally know the creator I acknowledge this may be an Urban Myth) thought up and persistently spread by some hater who had had some sort of “issue” with a bisexual ex and decided to “get even”.

For everyone not in the know, Please Be Aware this is NOT actually the definition of Bisexual. It is as if someone made up some story about how they couldn’t possibly be a gay man because they weren’t an Interior Decorator and didn’t like Broadway Musicals … you know long discredited myths and stereotypes.

If you want to know something about Bisexuals, please ask the Bisexual Community. Don’t Repeat Stereotypes! Don’t Believe Lies.

(Source: o3oiamphone)

Words, binary and biphobia, or: why “bi” is binary but “FTM” is not | Bi radical

leparoxysmic:

I think this is a very well written, incredibly well-thought out article regarding the bi in bisexuality being inherently transphobic, assimilating to the gender binary, the LG community vs the BT community… so many things really. It’s very long but totally worth it.

Just in case you haven’t read this yet. All about how Biphobia and Transphobia are close cousins. And how they are perpetuated in the greater LGBTQ Community by being built into some of the roots of Queer Theory/Queer Studies becasue some otherwise smart people (Eve Kosofski-Sedgwick a straight woman and Lee Edelman a gay man) just happened to be Biphobic and Transphobic. And how that, especially Biphobia, is literally being taught in Uni.

From Bi Radical (you’re not following her yet? Why? You’re really missing out if you’re not.)

The Bisexual community has arrived! The hate-mongering lunatic Bryan Fischer from American Family Association (an “official” anti-LGBT Hate Group as per the Southern Poverty Law Center) is denouncing Bisexual Pride Day/Bi Visibility Day (2012) on Twitter just as if we were a big important Gay & Lesbian people! And the other hate monger Dan Savage is denouncing him, (no Savage is not defending Bisexuals, he’s just fussing about the Catholic Church).

Totally unoriginal, but at least we got a shout-out just like the big boys & girls, right? I’m so proud!!!

Again, one doesn’t have a right to define the label bisexuality for others regardless of your vast knowledge of Latin prefixes.
from Way Beyond the Binary by the Bisexual Resource Center (BRC)
The Bisexual Community is not now and has never been made up of cisgender heteronormative/homonormative people only. People who repeat that painfully prejudicial falsehood are the equivalent of those who insist that “America is a Christian Nation” and then go on to bend themselves into historical and linguistic pretzels trying to prove their demonstrably false thesis.
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Why aren’t the attractions and labels of monosexuals scrutinized to...

bisexualmind:

Why aren’t the attractions and labels of monosexuals scrutinized to the degree those of bisexuals are? I have never seen it. Have you? I don’t see the same kind of hand-wringing about monosexuals dating nonbinary people and whether or not they must switch to identifying as pansexual as there is about bisexuals.

We’ve all heard this one before: “Saying you’re bisexual but attracted to nonbinary people is saying those people are really men or women because bisexuality means you only like the binary! Binarist douchefuck!” Even when we say that, yes, we are well aware there are more than two genders and we know that nonbinary people are not binary but we still prefer to identify as bisexual for whatever various reasons we may have, it doesn’t matter because BINARIST DOUCHEFUCK I CAN’T HEAR YOU LA LA LA

Some claim we are never attracted to nonbinary/trans people. Two common attitudes that come from this are: we are either willfully and deliberately bigoted by identifying as bisexual rather than something else, or it’s a more pitiable “well you can’t choose your attractions, so they can’t help if they aren’t attracted to nonbinary people, poor things.”

Either way, we are made into lesser beings, and the dialogue has been framed so that the only way to escape is to abandon bisexuality as an identity altogether.

It doesn’t matter one bit that all of these things are lies, that many bisexual people are attracted to and identify as trans/nonbinary and that we say so repeatedly. We are inconvenient to their biphobia and so are dismissed as an insignificant minority, if not outright ignored.

Because biphobia is what it’s about. If it really were about fighting binarism or supporting trans/nonbinary people, bisexuals wouldn’t be singled out because everyone has said something at some point that reinforces the gender binary, nor would the existence of trans/nonbinary bisexuals be completely disregarded. 

In the time I’ve been on Tumblr, I’ve noticed something about “social justice” activism here: rather than learning to examine and root out their prejudices, some people have learned only how to better cloak them in activist language. They know they can’t say “Bisexuals are cheaters/will leave you for cock” without looking like an obviously biphobic asshole, but they can say “Bisexuals are more concerned with genitals than other orientations.” They can’t say “Bisexuals care only about sex and not about activism” but they can say “Identifying as bisexual is evidence one is ignorant about social justice issues.” Others just nod and accept it because it reinforces their preconceived notions in a way that isn’t so obviously biased and inflammatory.

These are often people who also give lip service to the idea that we are all living in a society steeped in prejudice that we can never fully escape no matter how much we try and that our thoughts and actions towards others will always be colored by those prejudices, yet they insist they are not at all biphobic but simply explaining bisexuality in a completely objective, rational way.

Yeah, sorry, I don’t think they are somehow magically exempt from the biphobia that pervades society. Maybe if more people actually practiced what they preach and tried to confront their prejudices particularly against bisexuals we wouldn’t have to keep having this stupid argument all the time.

The obsession with marriage also sanitizes the history of queer struggle. Stonewall was not a wedding, it was a riot, led by the very queers who are now erased from the public image of gay equality. Drag queens, trans people of color, young queers, and butch dykes fought systematic violence and in Sarah Schulman’s words, “[…] arose to change society, to expand rigid gender roles, to break down confining social mores of privatized families and to defy the consumerism that accompanies monogamy and nuclear family lifestyle in the United States.
Thanks for this (via queerasfuck)

*Head Desk* and Bisexual! and Bisexual! and Bisexual! Doncha all just LOVE being Erased and Invalidated by all those other people complaining bitterly about being erased and invalidated?

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