I was going to do some things for Omaha pride this year but now I’m just like… No

jennabun:

I was going to do some things for Omaha pride this year but now I’m just like… No.

I was going to do some things for Omaha pride this year but now I’m just like… No.

All the advertisements for events and shit have just been like, “PRIDE FOR GAYS! BE GAY YOU FABULOUS RAINBOW UNICORN! OH AND ALSO LESBIANS. BUT ONLY KIND OF. [insert picture of hot shirtless dude and/or drag queen here]”

And obviously that’s a bit of an exaggeration but that’s how I read those ads in my head. They’ll tag the acronym LGBTQA somewhere on the graphic, but then proceed to only have events geared toward gay men and include photos geared toward gay men.

Actual pride might not be as gay-centric as the ads - I imagine i would see lesbians, bisexuals, trans activists, and many other sexual minorities attend. But I just have no fucking respect for lead activists/ad makers who aren’t educated enough to be representative of all groups. I don’t think it’s that hard to use inclusive, intelligent-sounding language. I also don’t think it’s that hard to understand that your public image is important when you are a queer leader in a conservative area, so your public image should be professional and not a cluster of myopic stereotypes that make the queer movement look like a parody of itself.

It depresses me that I was probably more progressive and educated on queer issues as a college activist than these people who actually have jobs being leaders for the entire Heartland area.

I’m just sick and tired, guys. Sick and tired of this shit.

theopoiesis:

One of the winners of the Bisexual Book Awards was detained at the Canadian border because he had his award with him. Go go gadget biphobia.

wickedkunt:

biphobia is being read all the way gay or all the way straight depending on who you’re seen with

biphobia affects people who do not identify as bisexual

auntiebatterie:

If you aren’t bisexual you are in no position to define my own bisexuality for me. Stop trying.

It’s been done literally thousands of times, move on already

Go home biphobia! YOU SUCK!:

angrybisexual:

tearingdownthatfence:

bisexualmind:

nimbusuncensored:

bisexualmind:

So over posts and articles about bisexuality that just consist of “myth-busting”

It’s been done literally thousands of times, move on already

Stop being lazy and write something a little more interesting or intellectually challenging about bisexuality for once

I’m looking at you, gay blogs

I quite agree. What bothers me at times is that outlets or blogs will post a “myth busting” piece and then sort of dust off their hands and be like “WELP THAT HANDLES BISEXUALITY!”.

Bisexual issues are a tad more complex and warrant a bit more thoughtful consideration than that.

In fact, here’s a protip for those outlets:
If it can be conveyed in list format, it is not good enough.

Exactly. Come Bi Visibility Day all the “LGBT” blogs that never give two actual shits about the B trot out the lists of how not-terrible bisexuality is.

All of this!

It’s like we’re forever stuck at some initial myth-busting stage and can’t get started on the more interesting stuff because we keep having to go, “Hi, we’re not monsters”. And does it even work? We’ve been mythbusting for decades and it seems like nothing much has changed.

Sometimes I feel like this huge time and energy consuming project of mythbusting is standing in our way, like it’s part of what’s been holding us back from really taking off as a movement. There are so many other things to do and to discuss. Did the radical lesbians ever bother with mythbusting?

Sometimes I just wish we could make a collective decision to say, “screw mythbusting, we’ll be over here working to build our movement and get shit done whether you like it or not.”

Of course we can. I’m in.

I am SO sick of mythbusting…. but as long as myths continue to exist, we have to keep busting them. The problem comes in when people who are supposedly representing us only ever mythbust (such as magazines and organizations rolling out the bi myths articles for bi visibility day).

What we really need is to find ways to inject positive representation into LGbt spaces. We need to take the stereotypes, upend them, and then slap people in the face with them. Better representation of bi characters, better images of bisexuals being protrayed in queer spaces….

I say, as far as tumblr goes, we just pull together one final post that tells people to stop stereotyping or fuck off, and then whenever someone enters a discussion with negative stereotypes about us, we just link them to it.

If we think of biphobia as a leak in the pipe in our ceiling of bisexual community…. What we are trying to do is mop up and dry up the biphobia as it comes at us. And the LGbtorganizations are plumbers that come in and put patches over the leaky pipe. When what we really need to be doing, is going directly to the source of the biphobia and fix the pipe, permanently.

(OKay the metaphor sounded good in my mind—not so good typed out….) (via corageoushale)

Bierasure freak out things

nooffswitch:

If you say Eleanor Roosevelt was a lesbian everyone nods knowingly and you get featured on all the big gay sites.

If you pose with her picture and say she was bisexual people freak out and send you anons detailing in various ways how you are wrong, she was a lesbian and not a dirty bisexual OR they tell you how to unfair it is to try and say what peoples sexualities were after they died.

Unless they are proclaimed monosexual of course.

imfromdriftwood:

holaafrica: On privilege and interest groups disguised as communities.

Also they work to disenfranchise and divide bisexual and transgender people from the now mainstream portions of the gay/lesbian people (and even one from the other) by dangling goodies and privileges in front of desperate people “if only” they would just join in the disenfranchisement, distancing and in many cases out-right persecution of whatever portion of the Queer Community that has been designated as a troublesome “other”.

A good example of this would be the ENDA Crisis that occurred in the USA in 2007 where what is colloquially referred to as Gay Inc attempted to gain some legislative relief for a small portion of the Gay/Lesbian community by publicly jettison Transgender/Gender Non-conforming people. Or more recently by the “label wars” that via external pressures attempt to divide up the bisexual/non-monosexual community into good/more-worthy and bad/less worthy components thereby further depriving an already undeserved community of money and services.

(Source: hellnogaycism)

mswriteypants:

midwestbiactivist:

2011 LGBTQ grant making in USA at 77 million dollars… of that $5k towards bisexual causes. Wow. #because2013

— The Polyamory Pundit (@polyamorypundit)

June 8, 2013

What the ?? Oh, wait… There’s no such thing as biphobia! What the hell are ya’ll on about?? Biphobia?? Pffffffttt. <sarcasm>

"Bisexuals usually end up with the same sex."

finalowen:

dirigiblejousting:

Occasionally I’ve seen this phrase fallaciously used as some sort of indictment of bisexual people, usually in an attempt to back up the faulty premise of bisexuality being just a phase, as opposed what it really is; simple statistics.

Assuming for a moment that this statement is accurate, you have to bear in mind that people who experience same sex attraction are a minority, whilst those who experience opposite sex attraction are the majority. If we take a hypothetical bisexual male, the potential partners for this person are described by the green field in the following (poorly made) Venn diagram:

Specifically; male people who are attracted to other males (a minority) and female people who are attracted to males (the majority). The number of potential female partners for this hypothetical male bisexual is obviously much greater than the number of potential male partners and so, in most cases, the hypothetical male bisexual will end up with a partner of the opposite sex.

This says nothing about the person’s attraction, it’s a simple demonstration of the law of large numbers.

This is an excellent point, and I must admit, it’s something that never occurred to me, despite how obvious it seems now!

mechanicaljewel:

bisexual-books:

bipaganman:

Dan Savage at Bryant Park NYC on Bisexuality (by framboise001)

For anyone wondering if Dan Savage has given up on his bi erasing

Well this is legitimately disappointing. I gather that his stance is “since many gay men use bisexual as a temporary label, we should assume every young bisexual man is lying until time proves otherwise. Thats…. I don’t even have words for how incredibly stupid that is.

BTW I will be getting his book next week and I will try to read it as fast as I can for review here.

~ Sarah

The thing I find most annoying about this is that he bases it on what he did when he was 16, in 1980. The queer world has moved on since then. My mom is a middle school teacher. She teaches openly trans* 12-year-olds. And no one gives a shit. Pre- and early teens are far more open about their orientation than ever before. When a 16-year-old boy today says he’s bi, he’s probably been thinking about it for a long time, talking over his feelings with his friends and partners of various genders and orientations. And he feels there is no shame or disappointment waiting for him should he identify as gay. He could marry a man in 12 States, why would any gay kid feel the need to “soften the blow” by saying they’re bi? Any family that has a problem with him being gay would have an equal problem with him being bi. But most parents these days accept whatever their kids’ orientations are. But coming out as bi isn’t like coming out as gay, because most people would accept it and treat it as the end of the story. But bi people have to deal with a “to be continued” hanging over their heads as people wait to see “which one” they ultimately “choose”. And this isn’t helped by prominent queer sex gurus telling everyone to “wait and see” about bi teens’ “real” orientation.

once again Dan Savage says It gets better - except if you are bisexual … especially if you are a male-identified bisexual tween/teen or young adult … in that case your STILL just confused and going thru a phase!