Bisexuals = people who ♥ people of Same Gender as themselves + ♥ people of Different Genders/Gender Presentations from themselves
When gay people are assumed to be straight it’s heteronormativity. When bisexuals are assumed to be straight it’s “Straight passing privilege”
The phrase “bicurious” makes me sick because 99% of the time it’s used to shame people exploring their sexuality and reinforce the stereotype that...
[Image: The hardest thing to do is to say that I am Bisexual. Lesbian or Straight always seems easier.]
Once upon a time (not too too long ago) it was also considered SO horrifying to admit to being a Lesbian — a word that in popular imagination associated with licentiousness, loose morals, mental illness, suicide, porn, and perversion — that the early Lesbian Pride Group of the 1950’s, the Daughters of Bilitis wrote instead in their mission statement, which was printed on the inside of every cover of their magazine The Ladder until 1970:
1. Education of the variant…to enable her to understand herself and make her adjustment to society…this to be accomplished by establishing…a library…on the sex deviant theme; by sponsoring public discussions…to be conducted by leading members of the legal psychiatric, religious and other professions; by advocating a mode of behavior and dress acceptable to society.
2. Education of the public…leading to an eventual breakdown of erroneous taboos and prejudices…
3. Participation in research projects by duly authorized and responsible psychologists, sociologists, and other such experts directed towards further knowledge of the homosexual.
4. Investigation of the penal code as it pertain to the homosexual, proposal of changes,…and promotion of these changes through the due process of law in the state legislatures.”
New York chapter president Barbara Gittings noted that the word "variant" was used instead of "lesbian" in the mission statement, because "lesbian" was a word that had a very negative meaning in 1956.
It wasn’t until Homosexual (and Bisexual and Trans/Gender Non-Conforming) people finally heeded the call of Harvey Milk to "Come Out" even when difficult and started standing up and correcting the Myths + Stereotypes by publicly self-identify as Lesbian - actually using the Word - and by the example of their own lives show that the meaning the general public understood + universities + learned academics and doctors were teaching as fact, was a complete lie did the word “Lesbian” (and Gay which originally also had a sexual connotation of being a paid hustler and general low-down immoral slut) become the "respectable" words we think of today.
An example that people who shy away from the word Bisexual and try to twist and turn and rename themselves into "something more ‘respectable’ like … for example Lesbian + Gay" would do Very Well to Remember History and emulate what Lesbian Women and Gay Men did.
To quote bi writer Eponymous Fliponymous, ”The word is not the problem.”
“Homosex Changes: Race, Cultural Geography, and the Emergence of the Gay” by Kevin J. Mumford. 1996. American Quarterly.
SO it turns out, BLACK GAYS AND LESBIANS [Ed Note: and Bisexual + Trans], heavily influenced the “modern” GAY AND LESBIAN [Ed Note: and Bisexual + Trans] movements in such a way that previously PRIVATE (miscegenation balls) that were not just code for interracial sex but gender “inversion” (gay and lesbian behavior) PRIVATE IS POLITICAL…meaning the crafted narrative that I was made to believe my whole life about how “black men cant be gay” IS FALSE! The whole narrative of white men teaching black people homosexuality IS FALSE!
WOW…so many questions remain about how black gay, lesbian [Ed Note: and Bisexual] and Trans-folk get pushed, silenced and altogether left out of histories and narratives WE seem to be at the forefront of …
some of it our own doing and then others the doings of white people who think of our bodies and forget our minds…….hmmmmmm (via howtobeterrell)
Interesting Side Note: In her book “Freedom to love all: Homosexuality is not Un-African”, Nigerian bisexual activist Yemisi Ilesanmi makes a case for LGBT Rights as Human Rights while also debunk the myths surrounding homosexuality in Africa.
Good to know! Thanks. That’s what’s sad about erasure, for a long fucking time you don’t even know you’ve been erased. Even asexuals have more history than bisexuals, they get a hint from celebrate and the slurs frigid or prude. But bisexuals don’t even have a derogatory history, we have almost no history. Not sure which is worse. (via spiritscraft)
I think it can also be the opposite - still erasure, but only acknowledging their opposite-sex relationships. I had no idea that Eleanor Roosevelt was queer. (via vangoghsdaughter)