Bialogue: Bisexual + Queer Politics

Bialogue is an activist/political social justice group working on issues of local, regional, national & international interest that effect the bisexual, non-monosexual, queer-identified and greater LGBTQ+ Community.
Bialogue: Social Justice Warriors and darn proud of it!
Our mission is to dispel myths and stereotypes, to address biphobia homophobia, transphobia and bisexual erasure, to educate the public on the facts and realities of bisexuality, non-monosexuals, queer-identified and all the other not 100% straight and not 100% gay/lesbian people who occupy the vast middle of the Kinsey scale's Bell Curve and to advocate for our Community's right to dignity, freedom to live without the burdens of prejudice and harassment and for our full equality under the law.

Find Bisexuals: in USA on planet earth
Chat with Bisexuals (in the USA)
Bisexual Men on facebook
Bisexual Women on facebook

Bisexual Conferences
   ○ 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference October 26th-28th 2012 Springfield MA USA
   ○ 2013 Creating Change Conference (CC13) January 23-27 2013 Atlanta GA USA
   ○ BECAUSE 2013 2013 Minneapolis–Saint Paul MN USA
   ○ Bi Lines VI: A Celebration of Bisexual Writing in Reading Music & Culture June 2013 NYC USA
   ○ BiCon 2013 July 18-21 2013 University of Edinburgh Scotland

Bisexual Magazines & Bloggers
      Bi MagazineFacebookTumblr
      Bi MediaFacebook
      Bi Bloggers
      Bi radical (Bisexual-Theory/Queer-Theory) • Tumblr

Famous 'Must-read' Bisexual-Theory/Queer-Theory Articles/Essays
      Bisexuality FAQ
      Bisexuality does not reinforce the gender binary
      Words, binary and biphobia, or: why “bi” is binary but “FTM” is not
      Being Bisexual Means That You’re Only Attracted to Two Genders
      The monosexual privilege checklist
      Why I identify as bisexual + differences and similarities
      Way Beyond the Binary

Bisexuals = people who people of Same Gender as themselves + ♥ people of Different Genders/Gender Presentations from themselves

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Posts tagged "Heteronormativity"

The function, the very serious function, of racism is distraction. It keeps you from doing your work. It keeps you explaining, over and over again, your reason for being.

Somebody says you have no language, so you spend twenty years proving that you do. Somebody says your head isn’t shaped properly, so you have scientists working on the fact that it is. Somebody says you have no art, so you dredge that up. Somebody says you have no kingdoms, so you dredge that up.

None of that is necessary. There will always be one more thing.

~Toni Morrison, from Black Studies Center Public Dialogue. Part 2  recorded May 30, 1975 at Portland State University.

Note: An archivist at Portland State University recently uncovered rare speeches given at the university during the 1950s, 60s, and 70s. One of the speeches uncovered is an extremely powerful and insightful speech given by Toni Morrison, the legendary artist and intellectual.

Dr. Herukhuti comments as follows: “Substitute monosexism for racism in this statement and it will give you an important perspective on the discourse of the last six months (at least) on bisexuals.

Do this without trying to draw false equivalence between monosexism and racism. Just allow the truth in the altered statement to wash over you.
” (via sacredsexualities)


I think cishet people get angry when they are labeled as cishet because they aren’t used to having to be labeled. They are shocked and upset that an increasing amount of people no longer refer to cishet people as “normal,” because those people have realized that no sexual orientation or gender identity is the supreme normal way to be.

good point

(via nonmono-perspective)

The main reason I’m offended by the constant questioning of ‘cis’ and people calling it an abusive term, is that it suggests that when we talk about gender, cisgender people are automatically ‘normal’, and transgender people are to be singled out. It posits cisgenderism as the default. As many homo- and bisexual people have said over the years to heterosexual people: you’re not normal, you’re just common.



The sad truth. [x]

Lmfao accuracy is accurate

(via saintpumpkinspicelatte)

We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves, or worse yet, not considered at all. We are frustrated by the imposed isolation and invisibility that comes from being told or expected to choose either a homosexual or heterosexual identity.

Monosexuality is a heterosexist dictate used to oppress homosexuals and to negate the validity of bisexuality.

Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have "two" sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone’s sexuality, including your own.

We are angered by those who refuse to accept our existence; our issues; our contributions; our alliances; our voice. It is time for the bisexual voice to be heard.

Bisexual Manifesto (1990) historic declaration about what it means to be bisexual as defined by members of the bisexual community themselves from the magazine Anything That Moves, a literary, journalistic, and topical magazine published in the USA from 1990 to 2002.


You know how men want sex all the time whereas women just want diamonds and babies? It turns out that if you look closely at the science behind these claims, a lot of gender differences disappear. A new review of existing research by psychologists at the University of Michigan deconstructs six common Mars/Venus claims …

That is, some pretty simple experiments reveal that far from being hardwired into our brains, differences in sexual behavior may be conditioned by our very different gender roles. Imagine that.


(TW: for cissexism)

  • Some of those trans* people are so angry!
  • How can they expect us to know about all of these genders and words and pronouns?  There’s too much to keep track of!
  • Why won’t those trans* people just sit down and calmly, politely explain everything to me?
  • I feel uncomfortable when they get upset with ‘cis people’ as a group. I’m a cis person! My feelings are hurt by that!
  • Learning to use the right pronouns is so hard! Give me a break!
  • I don’t know about all that stuff about [insert pointlessly controversial issue here that pertains to the health and well being of trans* folks, such as healthcare access, housing, safe bathroom access, etc.]
  • Trans* people demand too much of us!  Can’t they be happy with a little change?
  • Why do they call me out on things?  Don’t they know I’m an ally?

These are all things I’ve heard come out of the mouths of people who call themselves “allies.”  I could easily add to this list (and I encourage other folks to do so!). In fact some of these are direct quotes from messages I’ve received in the last month, or from people I’ve recently spoken with in person. To save myself the energy of individually replying to each of those messages in the future, I am writing this up. 

Cis aspiring allies, if you catch yourself thinking something close to any of the things I listed above, this might be a good time to take a minute and check your privilege. 

I could sit here and go through each bullet point to let you know what’s problematic about that line of thinking.  In fact, I seriously considered using up my own time and energy to do so.  But honestly, that would defeat and undermine the whole point of this post. 

When we are in positions of aspiring allyship (as I quite often find myself, as a trans person who holds a number of privileges around race, class, ability, citizenship status, etc.) we cannot expect that the communities we aspire to work in solidarity with will have the time, energy, ability, or desire to explain to us what we are “doing wrong”.

As cis aspiring allies, you have to learn to take trans* folks’ articulations of our anger, rage, pain, joy, frustration, and devastation as hugely generous gifts.  When we show you how we are feeling about our lives, about you, about people like you, and about the cissexist culture that benefits you, it is hugely important that you listen.  Sometimes listening may feel uncomfortable, especially if you see yourself as an ally but you are being implicated in our pain.  That discomfort means you have an opportunity to learn.

It is possible that, after really listening to what we’ve said, it still isn’t apparent to you what might be problematic, hurtful, or wrong about what you’ve said or done.  It still isn’t time to go ask a trans* person. 

It’s time to first ask yourself.  No, I mean really ask yourself.  Roll things around in your head for days on end, try your best to figure it out, seek out whatever resources you can possibly find.  Then, once you’ve completely exhausted your resources, if you still can’t figure it out, and you want to speak with a trans* person who has called you out, do so with an enormous amount of humility and respect and caution. 

Don’t dive into questions without intentionally making the space for us to decline to answer.  Don’t expect us to explain to you what you’ve “done wrong”.  Don’t frame our call-out as less legitimate if we cannot or will not sit down with you and politely explain everything step by step.  Many of us are asked to do this every day just to get people to understand “what” we are. 

And don’t be discouraged if you don’t get an answer. Part of allyship is knowing that you may have to live with discomfort, and without answers, and still move forward as best you can to work in solidarity.  It may take time and work before you understand the harm your words or actions have caused.  That is also okay.  Just trust that we’re not calling you out for some sinister reason.  We’re calling you out because we recognize your capacity to grow as a person and as an ally.  Make good use of that gift.

Just a friendly reminder from your neighborhood queen <3


So . . . does the fact that I stared at this in confusion for like 5 minutes becasue from the title I had thought it meant "How To Be an Ally To A Cisgender Person” mean it’s time to get some sleep now?



But… “bisexual” does not only just imply attraction to two genders, but actually directly states attraction to two genders. Ya know, “bi” meaning two and all. So why on earth would someone who claims to be attracted to all genders call themselves “bi”sexual instead of pansexual? I mean, if you’re…

Words, binary and biphobia, or: why “bi” is binary but “FTM” is not

Why I identify as bisexual and not pansexual

I don’t think you are a “huge asshole”, I think you are just misinformed. And I think that the fact that you are willing to talk and learn is an admirable thing.

As I’m sure you have now noticed, the vast majority of bisexual people defined themselves as people who have the capacity to ♥ people of same gender as themselves and also to ♥ people of different genders/gender presentations from themselves.

Notice that is how bisexual people themselves define their identity, not how people who don’t know and/or don’t like bisexuals define them. Those other people frequently say lots of (mostly very silly and completely untrue) things, but they are what we like to call wrong! and besides other people do not really have the right to define someone else’s identity do they.

I’m really not sure what type of cishomonormativity there is at work that automatically makes a few people jump to the idea that the two in bisexual automatically relates to rigid cisgender categories. Especially when originally bisexuality in animals (as borrowed from botany) was originally meant to describe intersexuality (then called hermaphroditism).

However I do know it is a very recent (no earlier than than late 2005/early 2006) phenomena. The origins of this strange event seems to be a backlash against the rise of of both the trans* as well as the bisexual communities coming from not only the conservative straight culture but also from the more assimilated and powerful/wealthy portions of the gay/lesbian community and their so called “progressive” allies. Additionally in the usa at least, there seems to be an additional component of race/class mixed in.