Excerpts from: Bi Men - Coming Out Every Which Way
“I may never come to identify myself as either strictly heterosexual or homosexual and many always feel confused about my true nature. After years of trying to understand my sexual orientation, what’s the point of trying to remove the uncertainty? Since categories always have ambivalent meanings, why not take full advantage of my ability to transcend such distinctions.”
“I’m still bi, with or without the sexual. Wherever I go, whatever (or whomever) I’m doing (or not doing), my bisexual nature and perspectives will always be a big part of who I am.”
“I feel happier and more grounded as a bisexual because it brings me closer to having compassion for all human beings and bodies. I can feel the frailty and bliss of all flesh.”
“My understanding of personality issues supports that some people find the sexual part of their bisexual personality will be expressed in sequence and will vacillate between male and female but not necessarily both at the same time. Others will find equal attraction at all times to both genders at once. Yet others will hover at some point between being equally attracted to both genders and an attraction skewed to male or female. I haven’t seen much evidence that would support there’s one universally correct way to be bisexual.”
“Chukky wrote:> I cannot believe that a guy can be attracted to and love a guy and girl the same…<
Based on your personal experience, I agree it would be impossible for YOU. You have no authority, though, to project your personal experience onto the rest of the universe as a given. I wouldn’t deny you whatever your experience and insight is, but neither would I deny the guy sitting next to you whose experience supports a slightly different convention. Just because you can’t project yourself into another ‘flavor’ of sexual orientation doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist or isn’t as likewise as undeniable a reality for THAT person as it is for you…Where I fight back is when someone else expects me to take on THEIR reality for no better reason than they can’t understand or tolerate mine!”
“Bi now the gay male, lesbian, and feminist communities and social movements should be immune to the very same dynamics of hateful homophobic, heterocentric society that devalue other queer persons. Bi now we should be able to distinguish between our allies and our enemies. Bi now gay men and lesbians should be rejecting the hierarchy of queerness, where gay and lesbian issues are considered superior to bisexual or transgender ones. Bi now we should be transcending this very notion that bisexuality is transient, inferior, or mythological.”
“Bisexuality is an option for bisexuals, not a requirement, but lighten up and have fun. Be a good and worthy person. Your sexuality is part of that, but a good part. Even if other people don’t understand you. It’s OK.
And here’s an example: About a year ago, a gay man I’d been getting acquainted with told me that as far as he was concerned, bisexuals were like unicorns. But sense of humor intact, I merely replied, “Well, I guess that means you won’t be stroking my horn anytime soon, since I don’t exist. Pity because I think you’re kind of cute.”
“Being ‘out’ as a bi man has led me to being open and unafraid of admitting any curiosities I was previously scared of being judged for.”
“Sucking cock, Fucking cunt, Empty and marvelous!”