The word is NOT the problem
[Image: The hardest thing to do is to say that I am Bisexual. Lesbian or Straight always seems easier.]
Once upon a time (not too too long ago) it was also considered SO horrifying to admit to being a Lesbian — a word that in popular imagination associated with licentiousness, loose morals, mental illness, suicide, porn, and perversion — that the early Lesbian Pride Group of the 1950’s, the Daughters of Bilitis wrote instead in their mission statement, which was printed on the inside of every cover of their magazine The Ladder until 1970:
1. Education of the variant…to enable her to understand herself and make her adjustment to society…this to be accomplished by establishing…a library…on the sex deviant theme; by sponsoring public discussions…to be conducted by leading members of the legal psychiatric, religious and other professions; by advocating a mode of behavior and dress acceptable to society.
2. Education of the public…leading to an eventual breakdown of erroneous taboos and prejudices…
3. Participation in research projects by duly authorized and responsible psychologists, sociologists, and other such experts directed towards further knowledge of the homosexual.
4. Investigation of the penal code as it pertain to the homosexual, proposal of changes,…and promotion of these changes through the due process of law in the state legislatures.”
New York chapter president Barbara Gittings noted that the word "variant" was used instead of "lesbian" in the mission statement, because "lesbian" was a word that had a very negative meaning in 1956.
It wasn’t until Homosexual (and Bisexual and Trans/Gender Non-Conforming) people finally heeded the call of Harvey Milk to "Come Out" even when difficult and started standing up and correcting the Myths + Stereotypes by publicly self-identify as Lesbian - actually using the Word - and by the example of their own lives show that the meaning the general public understood + universities + learned academics and doctors were teaching as fact, was a complete lie did the word “Lesbian” (and Gay which originally also had a sexual connotation of being a paid hustler and general low-down immoral slut) become the "respectable" words we think of today.
An example that people who shy away from the word Bisexual and try to twist and turn and rename themselves into "something more ‘respectable’ like … for example Lesbian + Gay" would do Very Well to Remember History and emulate what Lesbian Women and Gay Men did.
To quote bi writer Eponymous Fliponymous, ”The word is not the problem.”