Bisexuals = people who can ♥ people of same gender as themselves + can ♥ people of different genders/gender presentations from themselves
As they explained —“Last year, our teenage daughter came out to her mother and I as being bisexual.
We have always fostered an open atmosphere as parents so the ease with which she told us did not come as a surprise. Looking back now, I can safely say I was more surprised in her absolute certainty and the matter-of-factness with which she told us. This was not a choice. This was not a phase. This was her saying, “This is who I am” …
… Being the type of parents that we are, my wife and I decided to look for ways to show our daughter support and to become involved as a family…and so, the LGBT playing card deck idea was born … each suit has a LGBT symbol inside the suit’s symbol. Next, each suit’s Ace and Face Cards are symbols associated with the sexual orientation they represent. Finally, we did away with Jokers and advertising cards and dedicated these four cards to explaining the origins and meanings of each symbol represented in the deck.
Our hope for this deck is to not only give the LGBT community a set of playing cards which celebrates diversity but that also has the ability to open lines of communication which may have otherwise been closed.”
Now these are some REAL Family values!
They are raising money for this worthwhile family project thru Kickstarter. And unlike a plethora of other projects designed more to exploit the rising purchasing power of the bisexual community this one’s ♥ and head seem to be in the right place.
Mothers’ Day 2013: Few people today don’t know—or have in their families—at least one loving couple who are raising children, same-sex or not. And it’s really just the loving part that matters.
That same-sex marriage could go from its preliminary draft of “diagnosable” to the final edit of “so what?” must indicate some positive evolution on the part of the larger human consciousness. My wife, being a biology teacher, puts it even more succinctly: “Why are all these people so worried about who everybody else is sleeping with, anyway?”
Once again, thank you to everyone who participated in my survey!
There were 1,131 respondents and most of you were a big help! That being said, I had to throw out responses that were incomplete so it would not affect the results. A few people were hypocritical in their response, so their answers cannot be regarded properly. So, out of 1,131, 1,008 were usable. Also, for those of you who answered “man” or “woman” for your gender, you were grouped with “male” and “female” respectively. If you answered with “biromantic pansexual” or something along those lines, you were grouped with pansexual or (whatever you wrote)-sexual. I apologize for that, but it’s necessary for this research. If you wrote something like “I don’t believe in labels” or “Me” for sexuality, you were grouped into the “nonresponsive” category.
At some point someone asked why you couldn’t select multiple sexualities. This is because when I separate the data, there cannot be two responses for sexuality for one person. If someone could choose two sexualities, when I categorize the data, there will be two entries under sexuality, even though it’s one person. That would skew the data and I’m trying to be as precise as possible.
It appears that most of the respondents acknowledge that bisexuality has a negative stigma, but not many people believe in the stigma, which is different from what I initially hypothesized. There were also some results that highly confused me:
- When asked the question about negative stigma in bisexuality, 105 out 1,008 felt that there is no negative stigma, but went on to list negative stereotypes about bisexuals. One of those 105 respondents even said that they would not date a bisexual because they felt “disgusted to be with someone who might have been with the same sex”.
- People who responded “no” to the question of the existence of bisexuality, which were 4 out of 1,008, said that they would date a bisexual. There was also one particular respondent that felt bisexuality is not real, but when asked if they would date a bisexual, they said yes, reasoning that bisexuality exists.
- Most of the people who answered “no” to dating bisexuals, which are 26 out of 1,008, based their answer off of the negative stereotypes or insecurity. There were a few that said no because they are asexual and/or aromantic so they do not date. Also, one of the 26 would not date a bisexual despite also being bisexual. One respondent even said they would not date a bisexual because “It’s a turn off”.
It appears that transgender individuals are more open to being with bisexuals when compared to cisgender individuals. 100% of all transgender individuals (those that selected trans male/female) said that they would date bisexuals. 90% of cisgender individuals would date bisexuals.
Looking at the responses for describing the stereotypical bisexual, almost all of the respondents mentioned the following words: slutty, whore, greedy. Although, those words mostly described female bisexual. Describing male bisexuals was less common. The words used to describe bi men were: closet gay, phase, halfway there, cheating. Words to describe bisexuals in a gender neutral way: cheating, sexual predator, closeted, indecisive, attention seeking, lying, experimenting, and invalid.
A majority of people feel that bisexuals in general are not confused/promiscuous. Only 6 said yes to confusion and 16 said yes to promiscuous. Among those 16, 15 said yes to dating bisexuals. Among those 15, more than half reasoned that they would date bisexuals because they believe they will “have a good time” with bisexual people.
What can we take from this?
- A majority of people do believe that bisexuality has a negative connotation.
- A majority of people who are not willing to date bisexuals are ignorant of bisexuality or insecure about themselves (This does not apply to those who said they are married or asexual/aromantic).
- Some people still believe that bisexuality reinforces the gender binary.
- The most common way to think of a bisexual is “slutty”.
- Bisexual men feel that they are invisible and are not taken seriously.
All in all, these results are somewhat relative to what I expected. With that, are you surprised at what the data contained or did you expect it? Knowing these results, do you feel any different compared to when you first took the survey?
We have some clothes you could change into, but if you could bring your own that’d be fantastic. Our fake blood hasn’t stained clothing yet, but its possible, so if you bring your own clothes, maybe bring darker stuff!
We will be doing make up, though again if you want to do your own, that’d be helpful!
We’ll be meeting at Roy G. Guererro Park. You don’t need to know how to act, just how to stumble and/or run!
Its a very simple couple of scenes, where we just need a big running group, and a smaller group ripping out someone’s organs. Nothing too fancy.
As I have rested this year in the promise of new life after Easter, I made, for the first time, the connection between my experience of coming out as bisexual and my sense of Easter.
When I look back on this time now, it feels like a kind of wilderness wandering. Occasionally, I would feel drawn to a woman, but still in a way that I was unable to articulate or even perceive… I remember walking our dog one afternoon pondering deeply whether I might be a lesbian. I weighed my love for my husband with what I could express then as sometimes feeling drawn to a woman. I compared myself to the experiences shared by lesbian women. As I ended my walk, I concluded that what lesbians described just did not correspond to what I was experiencing. I couldn’t figure it out. What I had to do, then, was “live the question.”
Then one day in 1997, I was standing in the line for lunch at Taco Bell, admiring a woman ahead of me. I suddenly named that admiration to be a feeling of attraction and the click in understanding came that I am the “B” in LGBT. I am bisexual – in that I have the capacity to love either a man or a woman.
As a married Christian woman, I have always taken my vow of faithfulness seriously. At the same time, I knew I was no different from other faithful married women whose hearts flutter at the sight of Sean Connery or Denzel Washington. That I found a woman attractive wasn’t a cause of alarm. If anything, it was a tremendous relief – bringing to consciousness what had been outside my range of vision for too long.
I went home and told my husband, “I finally figured it out. I’m bisexual.” And he said, “That sounds just about right as I know you.” Surely it gives a good measure of my husband and of the love that grew in our marriage that this never disturbed him or ruffled the waters of our family in any way.
Lent had ended. In that fast food line, the wholeness of Easter had come for me.
The Reverend Dr. Janet Edwards is a bisexual Presbyterian minister in Pittsburgh PA, and a Board Member of More Light Presbyterians, a national organization working toward full inclusion of LGBT people within the Presbyterian Church (USA). In 2008 Rev. Edwards was tried and unanimously acquitted by a church court for presiding at the wedding of two women.
This woman is an amazing inspiration and I am so proud that she came from my home state! Let’s signal boost to show that Bi christians, and even ministers exist!
Help with a dissertation research on sexual minority persons’ identity disclosure in the workplace! I am seeking survey research participants who are:
* Sexual minority persons (non-hetero)
* Employed 15+ hours per week
* 18+ years old
yesterday, i attended my first support group and had the longest conversation that i’ve ever had, out loud, with other humans about bisexual identity. i felt unguarded because i didn’t have to worry about someone saying FUCKED UP BIPHOBIC shit to me about what label i use, my sex life, my dating life, or my existence.