According to lesbian professor Dr. Lisa Diamond, one of the leading scholars on women’s sexuality, lesbian and bisexual women more often have fluid, complex, varied sexual histories than linear, static ones. Bisexual women — and lesbians — may be “50/50” (in terms of experiences with men and women), they may have long periods of time being with just one gender, and they may even be life-long monogamists who are only ever with one person of one gender. All of that can fall under the umbrella of women who use the word “bisexual” to describe themselves.
Why can’t Jessie J be bi just because she says she is? Why is it that when a celebrity comes out as a lesbian, I don’t read that she’s actually really secretly bi, but was pressured by her handlers to say she’s gay, [Ed Note: actually that DOES happen but is certainly not as common, for example the American actress Cynthia Nixon felt forced to hide her bisexuality] but when someone comes out as bi, I see this kind of thing over and over again? Why is female bisexuality so unbelievable to people, and why must a woman’s statement about her own (bi)sexuality be discredited?
How hard is it to just take a woman’s word for it, when she talks about her (bi)sexuality?
amazingly enough, one of three (3) related pieces posted on this topic today … Make Sure you READ THEM ALL:
- “Hot sexy bi babes: media depictions of bisexual women” by Shiri Eisner in Bi Radical
- “Visi(bi)lity: How Did I Get Here? (or: What Chasing Amy Taught Me About Media and Identity)” by Carrie Nelson in Bitch Media
- “Why Can’t Jessie J Be Bi?” by Amy Andre in HuffPo