Bialogue: Bisexual + Queer Politics

Bialogue is an activist/political social justice group working on issues of local, regional, national & international interest that effect the bisexual, non-monosexual, queer-identified and greater LGBTQ+ Community.
Bialogue: Social Justice Warriors and darn proud of it!
Our mission is to dispel myths and stereotypes, to address biphobia homophobia, transphobia and bisexual erasure, to educate the public on the facts and realities of bisexuality, non-monosexuals, queer-identified and all the other not 100% straight and not 100% gay/lesbian people who occupy the vast middle of the Kinsey scale's Bell Curve and to advocate for our Community's right to dignity, freedom to live without the burdens of prejudice and harassment and for our full equality under the law.

Find Bisexuals: in USA on planet earth
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Bisexual Men on facebook
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Bisexual Conferences
   ○ 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference October 26th-28th 2012 Springfield MA USA
   ○ 2013 Creating Change Conference (CC13) January 23-27 2013 Atlanta GA USA
   ○ BECAUSE 2013 2013 Minneapolis–Saint Paul MN USA
   ○ Bi Lines VI: A Celebration of Bisexual Writing in Reading Music & Culture June 2013 NYC USA
   ○ BiCon 2013 July 18-21 2013 University of Edinburgh Scotland

Bisexual Magazines & Bloggers
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      Bi MediaFacebook
      Bi Bloggers
      Bi radical (Bisexual-Theory/Queer-Theory) • Tumblr

Famous 'Must-read' Bisexual-Theory/Queer-Theory Articles/Essays
      Bisexuality FAQ
      Bisexuality does not reinforce the gender binary
      Words, binary and biphobia, or: why “bi” is binary but “FTM” is not
      Being Bisexual Means That You’re Only Attracted to Two Genders
      The monosexual privilege checklist
      Why I identify as bisexual + differences and similarities
      Way Beyond the Binary

Bisexuals = people who people of Same Gender as themselves + ♥ people of Different Genders/Gender Presentations from themselves

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Unlike those of us who have only experienced the world a single gender, Schilt’s subjects were able to see very clearly that “men succeed in the workplace at higher rates than women because of gender stereotypes that privilege masculinity, not because they have greater skill or ability.” 


  • Sexism - and the word “men” - groups together white men with men of color, cis men with trans men, abled men with disabled men, etc. It means that a a queer trans man of color can oppress a white cishet woman.
  • Heterosexism - and the word “heterosexual” - groups together cis men, cis women and trans/nonbinary people, white people and poc, abled and disabled people, etc. It means that heterosexual disabled working class women of color can oppress abled white middle class gay cis men.
  • Cissexism - and the word “cisgender” - groups together cis women with cis men, white people and poc, abled and disabled people, etc. It means a cisgender lesbian woman of color can oppress a white trans man. (You know? I bet this is an argument that radscums actually use.)
  • Ableism - Okay you get the point
  • Classism - Or so I hope
  • Ageism - Because this is ridiculous
  • Etc.

Why is this ridiculous?

  • Because this is not how intersectionality works
  • Each term represents one axis of oppression
  • No one term can take all axes into account
  • Nor should it, otherwise we wouldn’t have been able to talk about the oppression of any specific group
  • No one axis of oppression trumps all others
  • To say that monosexism inherently and necessarily trumps all other axes is to derail the discussion
  • Is a black lesbian trans woman privileged over a white bisexual cis man? Of course not.
  • But that is not the question
  • The question is: is a black lesbian trans woman privileged over a black bisexual trans woman?
  • Take a look at some of our statistics, and then think about that.
  • Then take a look at how I, the person who wrote the monosexual privilege checklist, wrote, time after time, about how the list is meant to draw attention to straight people and away from gay and lesbian people.
  • Then take a look at my book, which includes the list, and is about intersectional bisexual politics, with chapters about how monosexism works at intersections between bisexuality and women (including trans women), men (including trans men), trans and nonbinary people, and people of color.
  • And was written by a bisexual genderqueer disabled person/woman of color.
  • FFS
  • Then after you acknowledge all that, maybe we can start having a discussion.

[Note: I trust tumblr will ignore this post much like any other that I make about monosexism and monosexual privilege because I guess I’m making too much sense? But - just in case it gets around, know that I may not be following up, as per low spoons. Hate to my ask box will be deleted.]

Some hottie walks by who you find sexually attractive. You’d like to get their attention and let them know this in hopes of a future hookup, by yelling, gesturing and whistling at them. But should you do it?

Never fear, Playboy's here with a handy-dandy flowchart to help you figure out this perplexing question.


This is really fucking powerful.

and sadly it’s at least a year old, maybe more and this is a translation of the original - things are tough all over these days


Most of the posts I put on this blog are encouraging because that’s how I prefer to deal with bisexual erasure, violence, etc. It’s better to focus on the ways to solve issues in a positive manner than dwelling on the negative. But sometimes you have experiences that just leave you seething.

I attended a dinner tonight that was business oriented for a new colleague’s birthday. All those in attendance were self-identified gay men, excluding myself. Five minutes into the dinner, the conversation turns into a discussion of how bisexuality doesn’t exist and that a mutual friend, who was not in attendance, was dating a girl. Comments turned into, “It’s almost sad” because he’s “obviously gay and it’s not going to work but we’ll sit and watch. Poor thing must be so confused. But hey…he’ll figure it out.”

The issue at hand was that all of the (mostly older) gay men in attendance had only known this mutual acquaintance to date other men. However, over the summer he had starting dating another friend who happened to be a woman and he was very excited to start this new relationship.

To question a colleague’s sexuality, especially when they’re not in attendance, is just unacceptable. As this discussion progressed, the same old tired comments about bisexuality came out. “The only bi men I know say that they’re bi but they all lean one way or the other” or “Well…honey….he should just admit it. He’s gay. It’ll be easier.”

My own sexuality was not up for discussion here directly, but it was the same. fucking. erasure. that happens daily for bisexual men. I was so mad that I turned visibly red.

At this point I said something to those at the dinner about how I have a dear, unnamed friend, who is married and loves, LOVES sleeping with his wife but also is allowed to sleep with men and enjoys both thoroughly. This comment got brushed off with someone saying “Oh that’s like my friend _____. He’s gay but he’s married to a woman so they have an open marriage where they both sleep with men on the side,” which completely missed my point and basically suggested my friend had a sham marriage.

How can people in the gay community, especially older members of the gay community, be so ignorant, and frankly asshole-ish about sexualities other than gay or lesbian? When this cohort of gay men were younger being gay was still listed in the DSM-II of Mental Illnesses. You’d think that a group who experienced Stonewall and the first wave of the gay rights movement firsthand would be more open.

And the way that they talked about women. And it’s not just this particular group. We often hear about how straight men are misogynistic. But little discussion, until the past couple years, has occurred talking about how it’s just as bad if not worse among the older gay male cohort. The shit I have heard some gay men (and often older gay men) talk about how “Women are just…ew. Like…don’t they smell and…just ew” and joke after joke suggesting men are obviously superior to women because we have cocks and pronounced pecs and muscle-y thighs, etc. How the fuck do you think you’re around? Those vaginas you find so revolting were somehow involved in you being in existence. And those “floppy boobs” are evolutionarily designed. It’s because of them that you could have the proper nutrition to have the cognitive ability to even have this conversation.

This is not to say you have to like women. You can even be repulsed by their genitalia. But to speak and talk about women as if they’re a different species and portray their own sexual beings as something hideous that should be hidden is simply…misogynistic and a throwback to the 1950s.

But I think the part that angered me the most was that a personal friend of mine was at the table and said nothing. This friend didn’t exactly agree with the comments being made but he also didn’t say anything. He didn’t defend the fact that the man he himself is in love with (also not in attendance) is bisexual. Nor did he do anything to account that his own friend sitting next to him, me, is bisexual and obviously very uncomfortable with the way the discussion was headed. Granted, in a setting such as this it would have put him at odds with his superiors but yet I was in the same position as he was hierarchically-speaking and decided to speak up for myself.

I do not mean this rant to blanket the entire older gay community. Some of my closest allies are gay men that are in the very same age bracket as these men and they have been some of the most supportive and amazing people I have ever met. But it still remains that a large portion continue to perpetuate stereotypes about bisexual men, trans* people, and women that are ridiculous. And in 2014. It is just unacceptable.

So please, followers. Send me some love AND responses. I want to hear your thoughts, even if you think my rant is totally base-less. I want to know what you think.


Rob Yaeger (MN HIV/AIDS Providers’ Oral History Project): The Minnesota HIV/AIDS Providers Oral History Project is conducting oral history interviews with health care providers about the disease and people affected by it. Excerpts of interviews are available online; complete interview materials will be housed at the Tretter Collection (the GLBT archives at University of Minnesota Libraries) and will be available for researchers and community members to use. 

Says Bisexual Organizing Project's Martha Hardy, "Here’s an excerpt from the interview with with longtime bisexual activist and HIV/AIDS educator Rob Yaeger. I’m really pleased they interviewed Rob because LGBT history includes bi history, including the history of HIV/AIDs.”

Today’s truly radical feminism is being waged by young people who see transgender rights coextensive with theirs.

So let’s see if I understand this.

Basically everyone in the Queer Community can, has and does use the terms “Butch” and "Femme" EXCEPT that bisexual women are not supposed to use the terms because That would be "appropriative of Lesbian Culture"?

(via imfromdriftwood)


Powerful photo from Howard University.



"Sissy Man Blues" performed (and possibly composed or at least adapted) by American blues musician Kokomo Arnold (1901 – 1968), this version being from 1934/1935.

A left-handed slide guitarist, Arnold had an intense slide style of playing and rapid-fire vocal style that set him apart from his contemporaries. He was born as James Arnold in Lovejoy’s Station, Georgia. He learned to play the guitar from his cousin, John Wiggs. Arnold got his nickname in 1934 after releasing "Old Original Kokomo Blues" a cover of the Scrapper Blackwell blues song about the city of Kokomo, Indiana.

He began playing professionally in the early 1920s while still taking side jobs to support himself including as a farmhand in Buffalo NY; a steelworker in Pittsburgh PA and in 1929 he moved to Chicago and set up a bootlegging business, an activity he continued until Prohibition ended in 1933.

Kansas Joe McCoy heard him and introduced him to Mayo Williams who was producing records for Decca. From his first recording for Decca on September 10, 1934, until his last on May 12, 1938, Arnold made 88 sides, seven of which remain lost. Arnold, Peetie Wheatstraw and Bumble Bee Slim were dominant figures in Chicago blues circles of that time. Peetie Wheatstraw & Arnold in particular were also major influences upon musical contemporary seminal delta blues artist Robert Johnson and thus modern music as a whole.

In either 1934 or 1935 he record the "Sissy Man Blues" with its openly bisexual lyrics, including the line, "Lord, if you can’t send me no woman, please send me some sissy man." Versions of this song all retaining the bisexual lyrics went on to also be recorded by other blues musicians of the era including Josh White (Pinewood Tom), George Noble and Connie McLean’s Rhythm Kings.

(via midwestbiactivist)